For a very long time I have wanted to do this. Create a blog where our opinion will count. A space where the writer and the reader can both interact and share their views.

I have thereby created this so we can have a bit of chit chat, play around ideas and innovations. Explore topical issues around us and input our own quota to these.

We shall both be doing this together and I hope I make this ride as interesting as possible.

You are very welcome hunnays!


5 Reasons You May Lose Your Job

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No job is permanent. It’s either you walk out on your own after attaining a better position or better offer or you choose to leave for further studies or your employment is terminated. While no one wishes for the latter, it is inevitable. Sometimes, people get fired for the wrong reasons, other times you signed your own fate with your hands. Let’s explore a few of the reasons below:


Zero Passion

Many of us go into a job with zero knowledge of the job. I remember when I was just employed at my current job, I had zero knowledge of what the organization is into and I watch with anew interest everyday as people troop in for one meeting or the other. But was I eager to learn? Of course…I read through every mail I was copied in, every document that pass through me I study and google for strange terms…31 months has passed and I’ve moved passed where I was when I started incredibly and I can attest to it too.

Many times, we find ourselves in a job we weren’t trained for or not even related to what we studied in school but we should be willing to learn on the job.

I learnt recently of a lady that studied Mass Communication in school and was employed as an accountant for an organization that do sales and purchases almost every 10 minutes every day.

Everyone expected her to learn, but she kept on making mistakes and costing the organization losses with her inaccurate bookkeeping.

When asked why this keeps happening, she said she hated any figures related work but she thought this would be easy and she can handle it… I was stunned! Obviously, she has zero passion for what she had been employed to do and no matter what anyone does, she would never be interested to put in her best.

And yes, she lost the job.

Do you Love your Job?



No employer wants an employee they can’t trust. Once you are in a firm, you are entrusted with trade secrets. It would really be unwise of you to divulge these to competitors or outsiders just because you feel you can.

Aside divulging trade secrets, it would really be a wrong characteristic of any employee who can’t be trusted.

I use to know of a guy who would tamper with office equipment and appliances, complain to his employer about this just to collect some Nairas to have it fix and then he’d just adjust what he has touched and keep the money.

And yes he was caught one day and then he did lose his means of daily bread.


Inability to stay current 

Quite a number of people have refused to up their ‘game’. So many people are too comfortable with the position they are that they failed to realize this is 2017. Recently, I was going through some resume and pay schedules and I was perked up by a particular resume.

This lady has 10 years’ experience in her current position…no other certifications or degree aside her first degree and I was stunned…Trust me no matter how much experience she must have gathered over the years, her pro level will still be on the same level as when she started the job except she can easily defend herself. But then, don’t they always say your resume always speak for your first?

If an opportunity should come tomorrow at such firm and they need to lay off some people, trust me, she’d be one of the first to go…

Today’s Motivation


Relationship Attitude 

No matter how efficient and hardworking you may be, no boss wants to watch his employees relate like enemies. You are employed to produce result and I don’t see how that can be sustain if there’s no healthy relationship between you and your co-workers. If you find it difficult to relate with others, it’s a big issue and its threatens a firm’s level of productivity.


The Wrong Mindset about being Indispensable 

So many of us work as though the firm is a family heirloom. We tend to have the wrong mindset about believing we are indispensable, hence, we do so many things and feel we can get away with it.

As long as you are not the major shareholder or CEO of your firm, you can be let off the hook at any point in time. No one is irreplaceable. It may take a ‘moment’ but a replacement is just lurking around somewhere waiting for you to mess up.

It is a terrible mindset if you act as though you are well connected to the big shots in the firm and choose to do what you like- your days of goodbyes will begin to count.

What are your thoughts on these? Do you agree with the points above? Which will you remove and what will you add?

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African Prints in the Workplace

Hey dears, long time no fashion post…I still need me a good camera and time to go to awesome locations to shoot.

A blogger friend of mine, Tolulope Ogunmekan started  a #pepperthemchallenge on Instagram which I participated in and I’m really glad I did. The idea behind the challenge was to state truthfully how much each of the items you wear costs.

The essence is to make others who feel very low about themselves and what they wear understand that you do not need to really look super expensive to fit in. All you need is to love yourself, appreciate what you have and walk with pride like a queen and you’d see people admiring you with great respect.

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Just before you date that blogger…

I originally read this post on Immanuel’s blog and I could not resist a good laugh. Y’all should please check out his blog…he blogs about Faith, relationship and inspirational.

When I read this post, I felt like he was talking about me. I could connect with almost all of it and I commend bobo for still putting up with me after all these…So it’s this hard, chai!

Whether you’re a blogger yourself, dating a blogger, or are thinking of asking a blogger on a date…this is what you have in store.


A date isn’t JUST a date. It’s a blogging opportunity, an Instagram snap, some footage for a vlog, a snapchat story. Bloggers are constantly on the go, especially serious ones and a date isn’t going to stop that.

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What Defines Boring?

They say I am boring

I may never know but I really do not care

Could be because I’m fine with my ‘boring’ life

But it makes me happy

I’m a bathroom Singer

I don’t miss Karaoke

I don’t even know how to start a twerk

Why should I bother about clubbing?

The second and last time I tried to,

I could not speak without shouting

The smoke choked me

And I was drunk after the first cup of Henny

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CyberBully and Personality Defamation 

It’s funny when I’m cyber bullied (anonymously) because when people do it to me, I don’t think of how much I want to hurt them or punch them in the face like my friends do…but I go on this site and write a quote to them back, hoping to kill them with kindness. – Ashley Jackson


20 Cyber Bullying Quotes That You Must Spread Right Now

How do people sleep at night after dropping a hateful comment on another person’s page?

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Monthly Stocktaking…Welcome to February

Happy new month darlings…

My niece and I. She’s like my heart beat and we can so fight!

I’m still really trying to understand how I have just become so lazy these days. I literally get other things done but I don’t understand what is with me and blogging. I can’t seem to finish editing just one single post now. I guess this post will get me back on my feet.

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