Snags of Starting All Over Again

Hello darlings, trust you had a great week. Christmas is fast approaching with each passing day. Have you made a wish yet? Trust me, wishes come true. Just believe in your heart as you make this wish and it’s definitely going to come true.


I was viewing my snap stories and saw a particular picture. It wasn’t until much later in the day after a gist with my bestie and we got talking about life, marriage and having kids that the snap message resurfaced. I raced back to screenshot but unfortunately it has exceeded the 24hours life span😓 One of the reasons, I hate Snapchat.


The message is this (rephrased):

I’m tired of trying to meet someone. Can I just meet someone with the signpost that says ‘I am your husband’😂😂Hilarious, right?


As I head home later that evening, I pondered on this and it dawned on me that if you have been in a long relationship for too long and you find yourself starting all over again, it can really be exhausting.


Imagine you having to hook up and do a few dates here and there trying to meet the right man. He does not need to be perfect but just because you have been used to someone for too long, you begin to find yourself unconsciously comparing the ‘poor’ new dude with the old one.


Being a single lady can sometimes be frustrating. Trying to meet a new person is worse. Starting from the getting to know each other to the few moments of friendship, to getting used to his friends, lifestyle, family and then if it doesn’t work out…this is the hardest part…you repeat the cycle again to meeting a whole new person.


If you are at this stage of your life, my ten cents word to you is to be patient. When I was younger, I would have agreed on this hook ups and hang out. But growing older and wiser, I have come to realize that the best way to deal with this, is to find someone you flow with easily.


You don’t have to sit in the most coziest restaurant to be sure a man is right for you. Or go on several dates to know if he’s compatible. Personally, I get bored being in a place for too long. Any date that exceeds an hour wears me out especially if I am just meeting you…


Chat over the phone
Speak often to each other

Flow naturally

A few hang out here and there, at your convenience
Please, get to know him well before deciding on hanging out with him – his personality, sense of humor and some likes and dislikes, so as to avoid a terrific first outing.
Dates can be awesome or totally a mistake, depends on the two people who are meeting.
Starting all over again can also be time consuming and unpleasant. But overall, a positive mindset goes a long way. He might not get it right the first time, allow him try again. And if you can’t keep up, please take a walk…


I wish you all the very best darlings💋💋💋 And a merry Xmas in advance…





  1. December 14, 2016 / 5:38 pm

    Starting all over. Very exhausting! Lovely piece!

    • debadmin
      December 14, 2016 / 6:03 pm

      Thanks for stopping by dear

  2. December 15, 2016 / 1:08 am

    Lol. I know the feeling first hand, trust me
    Tank u fr sharing this post, i gotta say i grabbed a thing or two from it.

    • debadmin
      December 15, 2016 / 5:14 am

      Thanks for reading Salmah😊

  3. December 15, 2016 / 8:26 am

    I’m at point where I’m praying he has Adaeze’s husband tattooed on his face. I’m tired of trying to know if “he’s the one”.
    I’ll be patient as you advised.

    • debadmin
      December 15, 2016 / 8:29 am

      😂😂😂 I can relate very well! God help us🙏🏼

  4. debadmin
    December 15, 2016 / 5:20 pm

    My dear, it is not easy for the guys too. Having to repeat that cycle is not easy at all. Owing to the fact that the guy has to do the search.

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