Urban Dictionary defines “adulting” as “to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.” While it is not a word you’d find in the English dictionary, adulting has become a word every one in the midlife age can identify with.
As a teenager, growing up so fast was one dream come true. I am not talking about growing up to pay bills but growing up to be a woman. You know that joy of having your own money, spending your own money, having breast, wearing bras, discussing periods with first hand experience, having legalized sex, and every other activities grown ups do.
The Teen-Age Factor
I remember one time when I wore my mother’s bra and I stuffed pieces of clothing in it, I could still remember the look on my mom’s face that day, priceless. I was so ridiculous as a child that I once taped something I can’t remember on my chest to make people think I had started developing breast.
Before you start judging me, I was really small for my age. All my friends were taller and bigger and were fully formed before the age of 10 and 11. While I was in Class 5, a friend of mine already had a heap of mountain on her chest and was already talking about periods. So imagine how I felt not even coming close to any of these. It was torment.
The first day I saw my period, it was like I had just won a factory of chocolate. I was super excited, I ran to my mother’s room and tore some of her old clothes, folded it gently and stuff in between my legs. Well, that was what I had heard my friends say they used.“During my period, my life is never my own.” Click To Tweet
I never told any member of my family, why I did not, I cannot remember. Until I was sitting in the living room one evening and I stood up with a bloody dress. Immediately, my brother called my elder sister and told her to tell me how to be a woman.
Ah, you people did not tell me the other side of this adulting; It comes with changing ‘clothes’ several times a day? My sister got me sanitary pads and taught how to use them. Buying them was another thing. I felt once I buy sanitary pad, everyone will think I’ve started having sex.
But who gave me all these ideas?! Ignorance is a disease on its own.
Changing pads at night wasn’t what I looked forward to as a child that loves to sleep. So I always wake up with colored sheets when I’m on my period. Even as an adult now, I am still guilty of this.
The Extra Baggage of Adulting
Eventually, I got used to this life of changing pads, buying pads, switching from Lady Care to Always Ultra and now tampons. But the one I never prepared my mind for was periods pain.
Acne, tender breast, and the pain that comes with periods never happened to me until a year ago or there about.
The first night, I thought I would not survive. The pain is indescribable. At first, all you’d just want to do is lay down until lying down becomes a bigger problem. Sometimes, it feels as if two people are at different ends in my tummy and trying to pull away some intestine they feel I don’t need. It can be so excruciating you’d think, ‘Why not get pregnant to avoid it?’ But how often do you plan to get pregnant to start with?
I felt it would go away with time or in subsequent months, but it never does.
Have you read: Tampons or Pads, Which Do You Prefer?
Dealing With The Pain
I spoke to my other girls and I heard different versions of what to use I got confused. Overtime, I have tried different things and here’s what has worked for me:I'm a badass because I can bleed for a week straight without dying Click To Tweet
1. Raw pap and mint leaf
Someone once gave me uncooked pap with mint leaf juice. She turned the pap in cold water and added the juice extracted from mint leaf to it. It took forever but eventually it worked and I woke up with zero pain. I have never tried it after then though because i am not sure how very safe it is.
This one never leaves my purse when auntie menstruation visits. It takes away the pain completely. But my only problem with using it is that, it messes up my cycle. Rather than the usual non stop flow for 4-5 days and lighter days towards the end, I have lighter days in between and heavier days towards the end. There was a time I even thought it had stopped completely and I did not use tampons and then half way out, it started again. I wanted to cry, adulting is hard, no one should tell me otherwise.Period pains can be so excruciating you'd think, 'Why not get pregnant to avoid it?' But how often do you plan to get pregnant to start with? Click To Tweet
3. Pain Killers
So a friend told me to always use pain killers before the period starts at all. So it’s best to have Phone Apps that can help you track your period and ovulation. I used My Days until it almost betrayed me, and now I use Clue. It’s way smarter, better and have cute functions.
With pain killers like Panadol, the pain subsides and your flow remains regular. Only that I always end up using it during the first 4 days.
I am open to many other ideas. What works for you for menstrual pain? What were the ridiculous things you did as a child because you wanted to adult fast? Were you prepared for some of these adulting stage?
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