When I was in college, (we call that secondary school in Nigeria), I learnt the Law of Diminishing Return in Economics. Little did I know this is also found in relationship as well. The illustration my Economist teacher explained then was etched on my innocent mind and I grew up experiencing this in my daily life. I craved for things so much and after getting a bite, two, three, four…I no longer want it anymore with the same degree of want as the first time.
However, as I become more matured, I realized this law is not only limited to things. We find it among humanity. We find ourselves craving so hard to meet someone, to know them, to become their best friend, to date them and to marry them possibly.
But, the excitement of meeting them is never the same as the months/years roll by. Eventually, they become that girl and they no longer excite us. That is when man needs become insatiable and he craves another.
Remember when you just meet your spouse. The intense desire to know them, to always talk to them, face timing every now and then, Skype, unlimited calls, SMS back and forth, walking with them all through the day. You can even predict their next action because you know them too well.
Forget what they make you believe on social media, after a while all this excitement dies. Even before many get married, all these initial affection start to wear off.
Relationship expert will always say, “Ignite the spark in your love life, go on adventure, try new things” but trust me, all these are easier said than done. Especially, when you both start getting attention outside the relationship. Everything about your current spouse begin to bore you and you feel comfortable with the new person. Even if he or she is just a friend. And before you know it, you begin to compare…
Bottom line is, are these phases every human is meant to go through? Are these usual occurrence that almost everyone experience? Are we not meant to only and continue to enjoy the spark with the one we choose over every other potential person out there?
If you are experiencing boredom in your relationship, it is not the end of the world. As long as you can pinpoint that this is the problem and take action, you and your partner can both avoid reaching the point of any overall unhappy relationship.
Yes, it can be revived. But at that point, what do you think happened? Are humans too meant to experience Law of Diminishing Returns with themselves?
My friends will say it is See Finish, but whichever word is appropriate, you both still have forever to go…how are you expected to cope with all these in future?
Over to you darlings, what are your thoughts on the above raised questions? Or could it be that those two were never meant to be to start with? Join the discussion…