After a long discussion…
Colleague: By the way, are you married?
Me: ? Ah no
Colleague: But why?
Me: What kind of question is this? How am I suppose to answer why I’m not yet married?<< lleague: noticed my hesitation… But you will soon, right?
Me: Well, yeah…this year or next…
Colleague: But how come you are not sure?
Me: ??now this is getting really interesting… Well, for one, bobo is marrying me not the other way round. Plus two, what if we are both not financially ready yet?
Colleague: My dear, you are not supposed to wait for him to be ready. Men are never ready. You are suppose to push him until he is ready. And on the financial ish, get married and see doors opening for you…
Me : I looked at him, shook my head, stood up and walked away… Some of you will say my feminist and faithless side is coming alive.
ehn, I don’t subscribe to a lady pushing a man for marriage. I despise it. If you like tell me I will remain single for life…that won’t kill me, as long as I am happy, *sips tea* Why should I push a man for marriage if he doesn’t want it? Why please? Why will you wait, as a man, for your spouse to tell you it’s time to get married? For Christ sake!
It only proves that your relationship was never defined from the start. It only means you both were dating just for shag sake.
I really do not believe men needs to be pushed into marriage. I know a few who were never pushed except of course he does not love you enough or he’s not convinced you are the one he wants to marry.
‘Faith without works is dead.’ <