Journaling: Benefits and 4 Tips On Doing It Effectively

Journaling

I don’t think I’ve ever mentioned here how much I love journaling, have I? Well, I love it. It’s a habit I developed about three years ago and since I began, I’ve never looked back.

I have journals that serve different purposes:

My Life Journal: I use this to just put my random thoughts on paper and record my views on various subjects. I write about current affairs in my life and address any emotions connected to them; about my fears, regrets and hopes. And I take stock of my life, write down lessons learned and milestones attained.

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Eating Disorder: Diary of an Anorexic

Eating Disorder Characterized by constant weight checks

“Eating Disorder”

Everyone keeps saying that

I am plagued by overweight

That is all I know

My body has become my nightmare

In my society,

The ones with slim body gets celebrated

The fat ones are called disgusting names

No one wants to associate with them

I grew up with these mentality

I must never get fat

Being on the big side is a sin

It’s a dream you do not want to have

My momma says I have the tendency to be

She told me being slim means malnourishment

My papa said I am his favorite child

because I look like his grandmom

“Who died obese”

He says a fat lady is a true African beauty

And a slim lady needs help

I am beautiful enough

I just want to loose this fat

And not die like my granny!

All my colleagues are size ‘6 and ‘8

And I feel left out with my ’12

Even the clients relate more with them

And see me as the weird fat girl

Because I avoid social functions

And I am so withdrawn

As a result of this, food has now become my enemy

I dread it

I avoid it

My eating pattern is so irregular

I use laxatives after a heavy meal

My best friend said I need help

She calls it Anorexia

After all, she has the perfect size

I cannot blame her

He who wears the shoes

Knows where it hurt

“Fat is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me.”-J.K Rowling

I just want to look like the girl we saw on Vogue cover page yesterday

They seem to have the best life

All glitz and glamour

No one look at a big girl twice

Fashion houses prefers skinny models

We all laughed about Tiwa’s size in Skinny Girl in Transit

I want to be like Kendal Jenner

Paparazzi follows her everywhere

My boyfriend said I am dying

I do not think so

He said I have Eating Disorder

Whatever that means

 

I am happy and content

I take more of liquids

That’s food too and more healthy

Most of all, I take time to count my calories

I occasionally have headaches

My periods are irregular

But that is fine

It will go

I am healthy

Exercising is not a problem

I workout in the gym twice daily

I would be fine

You know I will, right?

I have lost so much weight now

Totally loving my new body

And that is all that matters

“Girls developed eating disorders when our culture developed a standard of beauty that they couldn’t obtain by being healthy. When unnatural thinness became attractive, girls did unnatural things to be thin.” – Mary Pipher

Check sequel post about Eating Disorder on my Instagram here.

Relationship: Law of Diminishing Return

When I was in college, (we call that secondary school in Nigeria), I learnt the Law of Diminishing Return in Economics. Little did I know this is also found in relationship as well. The illustration my Economist teacher explained then was etched on my innocent mind and I grew up experiencing this in my daily life. I craved for things so much and after getting a bite, two, three, four…I no longer want it anymore with the same degree of want as the first time.

Getting Bored in a Relationship
Law of Diminishing Returns in Relationship

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Dating: How to Get a Girl Online

Where are my darling blog readers? My favorite people, the ones who are always ready to listen and read me at all time. Let’s talk about dating today. I almost went MIA 😁 You know I can’t do that to you, just kidding.

 

I’ve been carried away with the frenzy of my birthday. Yes, I was a year older on Saturday and I felt like a baby…the calls and prayers were all amazing and I felt 16 again. Don’t be deceived, I’m really growing old fast and I’m scared! 

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Blogging Relationships: Don’ts for Old and New Bloggers

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This post has been sitting in my drafts for some days now but I was indecisive if to post or not. Well, I choose to post because I have just recently installed the SEO plugin, thanks to Karis for hooking me up with this awesome plugin and I thought, let’s see how it works as we also talk about bloggers’ relationship. Yes, I know I am always late to the party. And I always wonder how I would not be using an SEO as a self hosted blogger, I am still learning though and I am open to awesome ideas. I know some bloggers who will not know this too and will rush to check out now…hahahaha, I caught you all.

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Save Money Each Month by Taking These Steps

It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you, and how many generations you keep it for. –Robert Kiyosaki

Do you feel like you’re spending too much money each and every week? It’s a common concern, and it can often leave you feeling powerless and squeezed. But maybe it doesn’t have to be that way much longer. There are so many small lifestyle changes which will help you to cut the amount you spend and save you money each month. Read on to learn more about these steps.

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The Fuckboy Complex

When you do contact him, how long does he leave it before responding? If he gets back to you right away, then he was pleased to receive your message and he’s excited to start a conversation – he likes you. If he leaves it a few hours, he might still be really into you but trying to play it cool, or he might not be quite as into you as you’d prefer. If he only ever responds when he wants to hook up with you… again, do I need to go on?

—  Eric Monroe

I have been writing and reading posts about the fuckboy for a while now and I have never seen one as concise and insightful as this. You need to read to the end to have an understanding of the term and how to walk away from one quickly!

Women face challenges in life that range from the right lip colour for your outfit to controversial gender inequality issues. Somewhere in between these challenges we find the problem of the Fuckboy. This word has been around for at least a decade with different meanings; it’s only in about the last year that it has become so frequently used by women and girls to refer to their “hook-ups”

“A ‘fuckboy’ is a man who sleeps with women without any intention of having a relationship with them. One definition that stood out for me was “A Fuckboy is an insecure little boy who doesn’t know how to be a man, that hides behind ego and lies while utilizing manipulation tactics to make himself seem greater than what he truly is”. His main aim and goal in life really is to score women.

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