Blogging Relationships: Don’ts for Old and New Bloggers

Blogging Relationships: Don’ts for Old and New Bloggers

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This post has been sitting in my drafts for some days now but I was indecisive if to post or not. Well, I choose to post because I have just recently installed the SEO plugin, thanks to Karis for hooking me up with this awesome plugin and I thought, let’s see how it works as we also talk about bloggers’ relationship. Yes, I know I am always late to the party. And I always wonder how I would not be using an SEO as a self hosted blogger, I am still learning though and I am open to awesome ideas. I know some bloggers who will not know this too and will rush to check out now…hahahaha, I caught you all.

Okay, so this is suppose to be a rant but I’d try not to rant.

Whether upcoming or ‘made’, depending on your niche. You really should avoid these as a blogger:

Never reply with ‘tnx’. Please what is ‘tnx’ to start with? The day a blogger responded to my comment like that, I felt really bad. And I wish I could take back my comment! You are a writer, you should be able to write that in full and move on. Replying a comment with ‘tnx’ is as rude as not responding at all. And please if your know the poster’s name, add it to the thanks…You could say “Thanks Debs” if that’s all you can write – You have no idea how mushy it feels when you feel someone knows you and know your name among the tens or hundreds big smile

Acknowledge likes. You could just check out the person’s blog too. Read through and identify with any you like. We know you get loads of likes but I’m sure you’d see the consistent ones, it could even be an upcoming blogger. A comment or a like will go a long way to put a smile on your ardent liker’s face. Or you can even check them out on their social media and let them know you always see their likes and you appreciate it. 

Please bloggers, answer questions and respond to comments too. You started from the bottom too! There’s nothing stopping you from typing that response to a question asked on your blog. It takes less than 2minutes! I remember getting a mail from Kachee the other day and I was blown away. She uses Disqus for her blog, so I can either comment as a guest or sign in to Disqus and leave a comment. I did sign up but I never remember the password, so most times I leave comment, I do not get notified that she has replied. And to think she sent me a personal email to acknowledge my comments! I was so full of awwwwwwns that day.

Once,  responded to my comment with, “Apt! Thanks as always Debs. I was legit waiting for your comments”, as little as that seems, it meant a lot. It shows she really do appreciate my readership and comment. 

You see sometimes, it’s not about the sweet words but it’s about the genuineness that comes with it. It’s about how you identify with the person and appreciate them for always connecting with your post and taking time to let you know.  And I think it is only proper you acknowledge this.

If you cannot respond to that comment, WordPress has made it easy for you to use the ‘like’ button as a way to acknowledge a comment, please try to use it; since you are already ‘too made’ to respond.

You see, the blogging community is an awesome place to belong. I have met a considerable amount of people via blogging and they have helped me in numerous ways I cannot begin to count. The way I have bonded with some, you’d think we’ve known for years. I am certain if I had exhibited any of the above trait, they’d have seen me in another light which I must tell you is not even healthy for your personality.

For me, I won’t even unsubscribe from your blog…no content is a waste and I love to read. I’d just keep reading quietly and move on without any comment. Well, I am sure you’d say, “It’s nothing…I have other people who will comment” Your blog: your style.

It’s just like someone greeting me and then I fail to respond. Or someone complimenting about my looks and I just pretend not to hear. Well, trust me some won’t come back or they’d just read and move, that’s if they don’t unsubscribe from your blog immediately.

According to Pruneau, When you get a comment on a post, make a point to respond promptly. Whether there are two or two-hundred comments, show your respect and appreciation by taking the time to respond to every single one. And always give thanks for the commenters effort and perspective!

Let’s call a spade a spade, please.

I’m probably leaving out some information. What other tips can you provide about this issue? Let’s talk about this and how we can foster a healthy relationship among ourselves as bloggers and as individuals.

Cheers, darlings!

P.S: Please note that gossip and entertainment blogs do not have to worry about this.

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  1. June 20, 2017 / 10:01 pm

    Greatly pened down thoughts debs, this goes a long way. Thanks for sharing

    • Debwritesblog
      June 20, 2017 / 10:04 pm

      Thanks for reading dear. Glad it’s helpful ❤️

      • June 20, 2017 / 10:07 pm

        You’re welcome

  2. June 20, 2017 / 11:24 pm

    Well hello Debs. First off congrats on the new plug-in. Secondly, this post ticks all the right boxes. Informative and as plain as a polite notice on a wall can be. As with all things though, there will be the occasional visitor to a blog who will write in ‘text speak’. I agree about acknowledging comments and going as far as paying back with a visitation and leaving comments on their blog too. Its all about reciprocation. Life is an interchange, and we live, learn and grow as we interact with one another.

    Warm greetings!

    • Debwritesblog
      June 21, 2017 / 6:43 am

      Thanks so much Blogoratti for visiting. I appreciate the comment, means a lot ??????

  3. June 21, 2017 / 9:45 am

    Wow. I always thought you had the SEO thing on, would have set it up for you. Thank God it’s on now. Great points raised. All bloggers should take note ?

    • Debwritesblog
      June 21, 2017 / 9:56 am

      I always thought I did too until Karis raised it…thanks darling❤️

  4. June 21, 2017 / 12:13 pm

    I also frown at replies that don’t follow or comprehend the commentor’s thoughts. What I mean is, someone comments approving a post for so and so, say makeup, even adding why s/he uses the brand and maybe some other meaningful information that seems discussable or even a question. The blogger of said post then replies with “Thanks for reading” and that’s all, without any affirmation or whatnot. I usually take it that the blogger obviously did not read the comment. And thinking that, trust me, isn’t so good

    • Debwritesblog
      June 21, 2017 / 12:46 pm

      I completely agree with you on this! This can really be disappointing and make the commenter feel like his/her response doesn’t meet ‘standard’…

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this Oluchee ??

  5. blackprowriter
    June 21, 2017 / 2:04 pm

    I’m screaming because my name got featured. But really, it’s always amazing to acknowledge each other in the blogging community. No matter how little or big your followers get. Your points are true too, a little “thank you” goes a long way. By the way I hate abbreviated comments as well, or abbreviated chats, they nauseatea me. We aren’t high school students anymore. BRILLIANT! I am also hoping to get my domain soon to hit up on SEO.

    • Debwritesblog
      June 21, 2017 / 3:01 pm

      Abbreviation is like a big punch in my face ?? All the best darling ❤️

  6. June 21, 2017 / 8:52 pm

    Yayy!! She mentioned my name. Thanks so much dear. Another thing that can be quite annoying is when a blogger comments absentmindly on someone’s post then add a link to his or her site. Apparently what that fellow wants is for his/her blog to be visited.

    • Debwritesblog
      June 21, 2017 / 9:06 pm

      ??? That can be super Annoying. Some bloggers delete such comment sometimes.
      I should thank you more sweet ❤️

  7. July 7, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Thanks for sharing Debs. First off we’re friends and you still abbreviate, we have a lot of issues to deal with cos i find it annoying; talk more of a blogger. Lol

    Also, it can be irritating if a blogger selectively replies comment on their blog. No doubt, we have our ardent blog viewers but we should be fair enough to reply people’s other comment even if it a short but interesting one. It would go a long well.

    Thanks for sharing once again.

    • Debwritesblog
      July 7, 2017 / 12:52 pm

      You can’t be more accurate! ??

  8. September 19, 2017 / 7:05 am

    The abbreviation thing!!! Always kills me!

    • Akingboye Deborah
      September 19, 2017 / 7:35 am

      ?? Makes two of us!!!

  9. October 27, 2017 / 4:12 pm

    This post is everything. Thanks for sharing Debby ?

    • Akingboye Deborah
      October 27, 2017 / 4:29 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Fisayo ?

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