Should Age Be A Factor to Consider When Choosing your Ideal Role Model?

Should Age Be A Factor to Consider When Choosing your Ideal Role Model?

Hello darlings, I am really sorry for my inconsistency here. Truth be told, I have loads of write ups on my notes but I haven’t had time to edit and share them as I love to share from my computer. But going forward, I will always learn to share from my mobile WordPress app.

I am a day late from my fashion post. I am going to share before the week runs out.

Let’s move on to today’s topic…

I used to like Dammy (not her real name). She was a pretty girl, courageous, always happy, an achiever, already has 2 academic qualifications and some juicy certification to her name. And a successful entrepreneur. She is well traveled, learned and a multilingual. She was every girl’s ideal role model!  I stalk her everyday on my Instagram and even had to follow her on Snapchat just to know more about her and see how she balanced life, school and even social media with her success.

…until she celebrated a birthday and I realized I was 3 years older…


I was angry!

How could I be modeling my life after a young girl as such!

I felt I had lived a lie since I started modeling my life in her path. I felt there was nothing I could have learnt from her. I concluded she was just too young to teach me anything. I believed I should look at people in my age group or older than I am. Honestly, I was so full of spite for her.

Until I learnt better.

We live in a society where people look down on you immediately they learn your age. This is the reason why most people just choose to hide their age. If you are too young, they tend to treat you as inexperienced. If you are too old, they scorn you for still being in the position you are without a success story.

It’s a crazy society we live in.

I’m sure I am not the only one who has felt that way. I eventually learnt Dammy should have being a challenge to me and set me on my toes to do better.

I shouldn’t have hated the poor girl for being so blessed, successful and intelligent. I personally feel age shouldn’t be a determinant to who we fashion our lives after. As long as such a person fit into our ideal role model.

I think people just seem to not like each other and get too spiteful. If I could love Kylie Jenner hustle and envy her (she’s way more younger than I am), then why not celebrate another simply because she’s black like I am.

We seem to believe nobody knows it all than we are because she’s younger than we are, that’s why we remain in a position for too long.

Be teachable!

Be correctable!

Accept mistakes!

Stop spiting people simple because they are younger than you and do better than you

Age shouldn’t be a factor to who you can learn from. Everyone has a different measure of success.




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  1. Dee
    November 18, 2016 / 12:30 pm

    Nice post!

    • debadmin
      November 18, 2016 / 12:31 pm

      Thanks for reading!!!

  2. November 25, 2016 / 4:12 pm

    I agree with you. If someone has to even think of someone else as a role model, the person obviously exhibits some unique traits that’s worth emulating. So obviously, the person is matured already. Age regardless

    • debadmin
      November 25, 2016 / 5:04 pm

      Age regardless??Thanks for reading, Oluchee

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