A lot of people have had to deal with breakup repeatedly while some have no clue what it means. Life isn’t always the same for everyone. While some are just blessed with a great love life, for some it’s a curse, karma or just poor choices.
Some relationships end up so terrible, the sufferer just want the world to stop spinning and end. While some end their relationships so amicably with their supposed partners and remain great friends forever. There are however some interesting cases of terrible breakups but they end up becoming best friends forever.
The matters of the heart is quite delicate and extremely unpredictable. Let’s say I’ve had my own fair share of breakups in the past and I can tell how it could feel.
The irony of a breakup could be that you see it coming but you never prepare your mind to what comes after. It’s such a terrible phase but it should never be the end of one’s life. Rather, it should be a phase you learn, pick yourself up and be better.
I spoke to 4 different people of both sexes who has experienced a breakup in the past and how they got over it and here’s what they’ve got to say.
Adaobi
Q: How long was the relationship?
A: The relationship was for 4 years and some months.
Q: How did you feel when the break up happened?
A: I was devastated because I didn’t see it coming at all. He just disappeared on me literally only to give me a flimsy excuse later as his reason for ghosting. Somehow I’m really happy it happened because it made me realise that I wasn’t loving me enough in some aspects.
Q: How did you get over the breakup?
A: Hmmm, how did I get over the breakup. In all honesty, at first I was in so much pain I hated him so much and I was just dwelling on the bad things he did. That didn’t help me to heal at all. One faithful day, I just spoke to myself, it’s done! Get over yourself already, this hate won’t change the way he treated you and made you feel. I chose to forgive him and myself for not caring about me. Then I started to really see myself, love myself for me, pamper myself and even discovered that no one can really care about you more than You! Somehow, I got over it. I enjoyed my single life to a fault. Being single is really bae.
Q: What’s your general opinion of a break up?
Break up are painful especially if you had it going with your partner. These days I feel breakup means the good Lord is saying something to you.
Q: Did you find love again?
A: Yes. I found love like a year and some months later. The love just happened out of the blues because I wasn’t searching nor interested in the whole love thingy.
Omodara Oluwatomisin
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Q: How long was the relationship?
A: 2years
Q: How did you feel when the break up happened?
A: Felt heartbroken and it was like the world was going to end.
Q: Did you find love again?
A: Yes
Q: How did you get over it?
A: It wasn’t easy but was a gradual process by avoiding, seeing and talking to him deliberately and also prayed about it.
Q: What’s your general opinion of a break up?
A: We learn everyday and break up isn’t the end of the world, if it could work there wouldn’t have been any breakup in the first place. So letting go/breaking up sometimes is always for the best if and only when we don’t allow love becloud our sense of reasoning.
Bassey Daniels
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Q: How long was the relationship?
A: The relationship lasted 2 years plus (between 2012 and 2014)
Q: How did you feel when the break up happened?
A: She was perfect. So after the break up, it took another one year for me to get over her. No lady measured up to the standard she set.
Q: Did you find love again?
A: Yes, I found love again.
Q: How did you get over it?
A: I just buried myself in self development and following after God
Q: What’s your general opinion of a break up?
A: It’s not the end of life. It doesn’t also mean the ex is evil because after a break up people tend to talk evil of their exes. It didn’t just work out as you expected. Pick up the pieces of your broken heart and live.
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Desire Uba
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Q: How long was the relationship?
A: We had been friends for about 4 years, very good friends. He literally understood me more than most people ever have, and slowly, we moved from friendship to situationship where we spent all the time together and basically were in a relationship.
We weren’t ever ‘officially’ in a relationship but this situationship lasted for over a year.
Q: How did you feel when the break up happened?
A: I wish there was an actual break-up but there wasn’t. He practically ghosted which really sucked. He stopped picking my calls or replying my messages. It hurt me so bad because I had given so much of myself to him and unfortunately, he left me. We had just graduated from school so I didn’t have to see him anymore.
I cried and cried very frequently because asides ‘falling’ for him, he was my friend and I never expected that he’d treat me that way. I thought I would never get over him or find someone who’d get me and I would do same the way he did.
Q: Did you find love again?
A: Love? Maybe not, but I did move on. After months of trying to talk to him, getting friends to do the same, but getting no reply, I moved on slowly but surely. Eventually, we have gotten back to being friends.
Q: How did you get over it?
A: Honestly, I got through it by letting time run its course. I allowed myself feel my emotions instead of suppressing them. If I was angry, I allowed it. I didn’t try to rush the process because I knew that no matter what, I’d get over it with time, and thankfully, I did.
Q: What’s your general opinion of a breakup?
A: Being the emotional bag that I am, I hate breakups. They fall into the category of the worst things we have to go through. I am currently going through one (again), and it isn’t funny at all.
I do believe that they are part of the processes for growth as a human, so they aren’t all bad.
What I have learnt going through a few of them is that I am stronger than I give myself credit for a lot of the time, and you reading this, probably are too.
Also, I believe we all need to remember that good people do bad things, so even if someone did breakup with me, it doesn’t automatically make them a bad person.
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Have you ever gone through a phase of breakup? What’s your general perception about it? Don’t forget to share any other contrary view you may have in the comment section.
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I love the answers of everyone of them, they were being real
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Yes dear, that way, anyone else going through same will understand they are not alone and they can also get through such phase. Thanks for always stopping by and have a lovely day ahead.
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Debs!!!!
I know I’m super late but thank you so much for this feature. It means a lot and I am so happy to have shared my experience and to read from others.
Thank you for this picture from Lifehack, it’s one thing I really needed and I will try the decluttering ASAP.
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Better late than never, dear. And thank
You so much for agreeing to contribute. Your experience has truly gone a long way to help others heal.
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