So often we find ourselves judging others without even listening to their sides of the story. We judge others based on hearsay and assumptions. While I agree there’s an iota of truth in every rumor, we still need to give others a sense of doubt.
Something happened to my Kidsis while she was around visiting. There’s this ‘aboki’* that grinds pepper opposite our house. The other day Kidsis went there to blend and she ended up overpricing the dude. I guess the pricing did not go well with the aboki and she told Kidsis to leave which she did angrily.
Fast forward to days later, she went back there only for this man to say he would never ever blend for her again. I sent someone else to this guy but the moment he saw the container, he knew where it was coming from and still refuses to. Ever since, we had to look for alternatives, alternatives that takes us miles away especially when electricity fails which has become a thing now.
Later on, we learnt Mr Aboki wasn’t even the owner of the machine as he works for the landlady of the house he lives. And madam has been wondering why we pass by her house with container (she must have guessed we choose to go to other places rather than hers).
She never asked. She felt bad and hated us for that.
When Kidsis visited again, she felt it doesn’t make sense going long distance when you have a means just a stone throw and decided to report Oga Aboki to his madam.
Madam was shocked and couldn’t believed such has ever transpired between us. She felt bad for judging us wrongly when it was his boy that has gone overboard with his actions. She apologized profusely and condemned the boy.
What am I trying to say?
We should always listen to others before judging them. Personally I hate petty talks. I believe everyone has a reason for their actions. If we walk half a mile in another person’s shoe, we’d understand better why they stop every quarter mile before proceeding on the journey.
Too many challenges here and there. While I agree some people are just trouble makers, others have reasons for their actions.
So please, before you cast aspersions on another…ask them why it has happened. If you feel too important to ask, then shut your mouth up and please do not judge them for their actions! You aren’t God and you have no right whatsoever to make others feel guilty and terrible about their actions.
What are thoughts on this? Have you ever judged someone else wrongly before hearing their sides of the story? How did you reconcile? Have you ever been judged wrongly? How did you feel?
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ABOKI – An Hausa word for friend
“Judgement is often no more than a confession of ignorance.”
― Bill Clegg