Rebuilding friendship with your ex should be a personal and healthy decision. One you are not forced to make or do just because you want to please another person. We are all humans and we have individual differences which could make us not work. However, depending on how the relationship ends, you may choose to forgive, heal, move on or rebuild such relationship.
There is no easy breakup and it can take forever for some to heal or forgive. On the brighter side, some people create beautiful friendships while dating and it may even be harder to let such go. So while it is very okay to get really upset, you can still choose to rebuild a relationship with your ex. Rebuilding such relationship could make you heal better or become a better person. And you never can tell, it could help you both start dating again.
On the flip side, if you are in another relationship, you may want to be careful and respect your partner’s boundary. Just because you want to keep a friend, you shouldn’t lose a husband or wife. For the purpose of this post however, we would focus on the tips that can help you rebuild friendship with your ex.
6 Ways to Rebuild Friendship With Your Ex
#1: Give It Time
Try your possible best not to be a pest in their life. It’s okay to seek closure by nagging at them every time; but once you are completely over them, take a break. It’s wrong to sit by your phone waiting for a message or call from them after the break up. This will not help you heal but cause more hurt.
Find other fun activities to do and keep yourself engrossed in, build up yourself during this period as well. Ensure you are totally over them before deciding if you still want to remain friends or not.
#2: Admit Your Mistakes
When a break up happens, the party involve are always quick to pass the blame. It’s always about what you did wrong and never about how I contributed to it. Most times, our actions always lead to a counter actions that caused the breakup. So it is important to admit your fault first to be able to mend the fence between you both.
#3: Forgive Each Other
You have to truly let go of the past. There’s no point talking about when your ex was a jerk and rubbing it in their face. That’s only going to breed more animosity between you both and worsen the situation. If you are yet to forgive them, then do not attempt to stay friends.
#4: Set Boundaries
As it stands, you both are just friends and that’s probably because you respect and admire them. Let it remain so and set boundaries. No late night visits, no unnecessary video calls, no unscheduled visits, there should be no light kisses or romance. You can only entertain any of these if you are trying to get back together.
#5: Keep Conversations as Honest as Possible
Your relationship with your ex could have hit the rock as a result of dishonesty, there’s no point keeping that same energy as friends. If you want to be friends, then keep the friendship as honest as possible with an open mind. Let it be a sort of learning phase for you both to becoming better persons.
If your ex choose not to remain your friend, do not take it against them. They could have a genuine reason why they do not want to be your friend and this does not make them a bad person. You may still always remain that person they were attracted to. Going back to what used to be is indeed a hard decision and it should come naturally.
Would you remain friends with your ex? What reservations do you have about this and what other point would you add to the list?
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