Body Shaming is one topic that has always been emphasized over and over in the society. No matter what you look like, society will always have something negative to say about you. This is now a recurrence and has caused a lot of people to deal with body insecurities. And it is a known fact that most insecurities breeds low self esteem. Aside low self esteem, body shaming can make the victim suffer eating disorder while trying so hard to please people who have no say about his or her life.
I have had my fair share of body shaming and this had plunged me into deep pain thereby leaving me insecure about my body image. I worry about how I look, how my clothes fit, and what people have to say about me. Everyone has a label to how I look, as long as it makes them feel better.
Yes, that is the first way I learn to deal with my body image. I told myself everyone will say what they want to say to feel better. Either to seem like a good friend who is trying to advise you on how you should look, or it is just their way of trying to justify how they look too. Someone who feels insecure about how she looks will find a way to make another feel same. That way, they can both wallow in self pity.
6 Ways I Deal With My Body Image
I did not grow up to be chubby yet I have never really been on the slim side. My dad isn’t slim, and everyone has always called me my father’s daughter right from adolescent. Hence it should not be a surprise if I grow up looking like him. While I admit age is telling on him now and he is not as chubby as he used to look, the genes have fallen on me.
This however is not an excuse to how I should look. Irrespective of this, I have come to accept myself the way I am. Christian mother arm, 3 tiers fold belly, big thighs, I know how I look. I am the one who get to see myself naked in the mirror everyday. I have seen it all and I have accepted myself just the way I am.
I understand that if you know me some 5 to 7 years ago and you meet me again, the look of shock on your face isn’t supposed to be indifferent. I expect reactions especially from people who used to know me, hence I am always mentally prepared for it. So when this happen and I start hearing those snide remarks about my body, I am not moved. Oh, I used to cry and worry about it but when I realize this would continue to affect me if I allow it get to me, I developed a thick skin.
#3: Shift Focus Away From Your Body Image
If I continue to dwell on how I look and how people label me, my life would continue to be at a standstill. I would slowly slip into oblivion and matter less and less. Hence, I focused on other area of my life that needs development like education, career growth, and other interest. As long as you are certain you are healthy and not ill, then do not allow how society choose to perceive you affect you.
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#4: Understand Your Body
While I watch people talk, developed a thick skin, accept myself for who I am, I tried to understand my own body. I have gone through the strict diet life, pills, teas, and different stuffs just because I want to loose weight. But one thing I realized is that, the day I stop doing any of this is the day I start to get fat again. Which means, I do not understand my body one bit.
As a result, I stopped trying so hard the wrong way. I started to eat right to stay healthy. I reduced my sugar intake, drink more water, eat more vegetables, cut late night meal and introduce some forms of exercise in my daily life. That way, I am taking it one day at a time, working on those parts I can realistically change and leaving the others as it is.
#5: Quit Comparing Your Life With Celebrities
Do you know celebrities are not like us? Are you aware they live for the camera? And it is only part of their profession to look the part. The more you try to benchmark your life with theirs, the more you’d fail at this. They always have a team they work with who ensures they remain the way they want their audience to see them.
I am not a celebrity and I have no one paying me to live the part. Why then should I kill myself in the process of creating a life I cannot sustain or meet up?
To deal with negative body image, it is important to accept yourself as you are and love yourself unconditionally, ignoring the noise society is making about you.
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#6: Dress The Part
The struggle to dress like people we love is always so deep we forget that we are not all built the same way. Know your body and wear what fit. Avoid struggling so hard to wear too fitted dresses if it will make those curves you want to keep in stand out. If you do not have a very flat tummy, avoid clothes that will make you uncomfortable in public. If it wouldn’t discomfort you in anyway, however, wear it.
Depending on where I am going, I avoid clothes that are too clingy around my bosom especially. If I wear such before eating, I am definitely going to look like I just dropped out of a magazine cover. But the moment I fill up my tummy, you’d see me struggling to suck belle which is definitely going to be a failed attempt.
If you were to be granted one wish regarding your body, what would you aim to change so much? Have you constantly being body shamed, how did you deal with it? Are you someone who body shame others? Do you feel okay doing that believing it would help them? Join the discussion.
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