Wack Communication Begets a No-Relationship

Wack Communication Begets a No-Relationship

Ever read some chats and you get so angry you won’t even think of a response?

You had just met this guy and you are still trying to weigh him if he is worth your time or not. Your relationship is just in its DM stage and he goes like-
“Hello”- This is now recurrent especially to start a conversation.
“Good morning” –It is obviously morning.
“How are you?” – What will you do if I am not fine?
“How was your night?” – You asked me this yesterday and the day before and the answer has been fine.
“Did you sleep well?” – Oh no, you just asked me how my night was!
“What’s for breakfast?” – Are you bringing me food?
“What are you doing at the moment?” – I am not jobless Mr! So I am definitely working at the moment.
“You did not even bother to check up on me?” – Do I have to everyday??? To prove what? Pretend to you that I care?
“When can I call you?”- Can you use commonsense here please?

Some will argue it is courtesy but I really find that annoying personally. This is like a routine. It is cool if this is like an occasional mode of starting a conversation but when you chat with the same person every day and always begin like this, then, there is problem. Why can’t you just try to get to get more familiar with the person instead of asking Jamb Questions. Trust me if the lady is not yet into you, such message would be unread till forever if not deleted unread.

Imagine someone hitting your DM or Facebook inbox with an ‘Hello’…and then wait till forever for you to respond with an “Hi”. My dear, you are trying to strike a conversation, not everyone have all the time in the world to go through those one word greetings, why don’t you just shoot up your case in the most pleasant way that you know even if you yourself hear, you wouldn’t resist a response.

Guys let’s try to spice up things. Don’t dull a lady or potential girlfriend with your terrible pick up lines. This same lady has plenty of guys hitting her DM and inbox trying to get her into a good conversation. She must have read and replied loads of hellos, good morning, happy new year, happy new month, are you based in Lagos?

You can even start by picking any of her captions, pictures or posts and start from there. That will definitely catch her interest. It shows you know a little about her and wouldn’t mind discussing with her. That could even make her decide to go through your page as well. And from there an interest could spark.

I remember an interesting situation of mine very recently. I had walked past this dude as he was sitting in his car and I had heard him say ‘Fine girl.’ I turned to look at him and was like…really?

On my way back, almost close to my destination, I had heard a continuous car horn and had turn to see Mr Fine Girl behind me.

‘Sorry to bother you, I noticed you earlier and wish to talk to you.’
I stopped and turned to him.
‘Do you live around here?’
I paused. I was completely dressed for work, struggling to walk that long miles in my pumps and it was even during working hours? Plus the area I was at that time wasn’t even a residential area.
I stared at him in shocked and manage to mutter ‘No.’
‘Can I have your number please?’
I wanted to say no but felt I needed this one off my back and replied, ‘Give me yours instead.’
And guess what Mr Fine Geh asked me next?
“Is it MTN or GLO?”

Instantly, I went back to 10 years ago where people only called their network and would flash other networks expecting the person to call back because of the call tariff. He must have definitely not been informed of the new development in the telecommunication sector. And I felt sorry for him. I was so weak, I could not move. I struggled to walk away even as he kept honking his horn and I heard him said “What is wrong with this girl?”

Many will call it pride. Others will label it arrogance but then I am sorry but I can’t stand ignorance. There is no excuse for it. And I am sure many other similar minded ladies would agree with me. There are loads of technology advancement around us that can help enlighten us. Why then should some guys still continue to remain in the 90’s lifestyles.

Guys please step up your conversation game. Stop boring us. Stop making us wish we had not exchanged numbers with you or even given you attention in the first place. Make us not wanna say goodnight please. Lit up that chat!

I will be back next week to trash the ladies, not to worry. Have a fun-filled Tuesday…xoxoxoxoxo

communication, messages, , social media, technology


  1. Caleb.kel
    February 16, 2016 / 5:13 pm

    Can’t wait to read you trash the ladies. …

    • February 16, 2016 / 8:10 pm

      Wait on it??Thank you

  2. RichTee
    February 19, 2016 / 4:44 pm

    lol…. interesting!!!! well said!

  3. tolutorial
    February 25, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    Awwwn!this is lovely.was so engrossed ehn!…mor grace dear.

    • February 25, 2016 / 10:10 pm

      Thanks a million?

  4. March 1, 2016 / 8:55 am

    Reblogged this on orjiwisdom1610 and commented:
    As a guy, you should bear it in mind that just the same way you feel attracted to a lady and will want to speak to her, there are a thousand and one guys out there who feel the same way. Infact, theirs could be way more than yours. Now imagine if everyone of you use the kind of pick up lines mentioned in this article…take ur time reason am…she will most definitely become bored and as soon as someone approaches her with this same lame line, she immediately puts u in the same category of ‘omg, not again’. You have to be different to pique her interests. Ladies love u being the real you. Be genuine. Think out of the box. Now I know it is not easy, not when you see one hottie and all of a sudden u become dumbfounded and become lost for words…believe me I’ve been there…but you have to regain your composure and act like a man that you are. Think up something nice and believe you me, that lady will reel off her phone numbers like a parrot *wink*. Ladies sef…make una dey help us out. E no easy for us.

    • March 1, 2016 / 12:45 pm

      Well said! This is so interesting coming from a guy too…

  5. March 1, 2016 / 9:06 am

    This is so nice. But the ladies should also try to make things easier for us. Yeah I know nothing good comes easy but ladies should understand that sometimes we get dumbfounded by them and become lost for words…that’s when you hear a guy stuttering words like: erm…xcuse me…erm…heaven must be missing an angel cos you look like one. Lol. Ladies, pls endeavour to help a brother out.

    • March 1, 2016 / 10:18 am

      ? I can clearly relate. You should read the second part too

  6. Onyeka Ogugbue
    March 1, 2016 / 5:09 pm

    Hmmm..so I am finally here! So inspiring, I had to read dis particular piece of write up about thrice cos it kept resonating with me and also the relevance in this present 21st Century world we live in where a lot of innovations and dynamism has taken over & a lot of things are on the cutting edge. I concur with u and totally align to this inspiration which is a total departure from d status quo. Thank u so much Debbie for sharing this but sometimes, make una dey pity us..lolz. Cheers!

    • March 1, 2016 / 5:16 pm

      Thanks so much for reading through. We would try to pity but you guys should stay informed too?

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  8. February 7, 2017 / 11:10 pm

    See trashing of life!!! Lol………………… I just hope I am among those types of Guys sha, How would I know sef except some lady tells me so

    okay lemme come and be going. but some ladies are annoying too sha. Imagine calling a lady you have interested in, you two have been some little talk here and there. Just the day you want to give a hint of your intention to date you give her a call……………..

    Dialing her number

    Hello., what do you want?
    Me: Nothing, I just decided to say hi


    Okay, Lemme come and be going

    • debadmin
      February 8, 2017 / 7:25 am

      ????? We can be that complicated, yeah? I know right, we ask for too much sometimes but then some of us still know what we want and a boring ignorant guy ain’t one ?

      Thanks for stopping by, Emmanuel

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