Don’t Be Scared to Say No

Don’t Be Scared to Say No

I really should have a category or series I call #Saloondiaries cos that’s what this post is basically about.
Or I should go to the saloon more often because I always get inspired before leaving there or just as I’m leaving…
Okay so this time around I said NO! I refused!!! And that feels like I’ve been to heaven and I’m back.


Here’s what happened this time. For the past 3months or so, I’ve been wearing wigs cos I got tired of making my hair which might not last and still be super expensive…#lifeofanaturalista


I decided to make cornrows this time with extension and visited my dearest salon as usual…This time, I dinur pay for washing my hair moonwalk and I made sure I did not forget to ask how much it would cost to make the cornrows, was told N4,000 by the salon owner sef.


Now imagine the rude shock on my face when the salon cashier told me I was to pay extra N1,500 cos of extra length…I was like ehn ??? What’s the definition of normal length and she showed me a sample which wasn’t more than 10-12″…In my mind, I was like this people sha know how to look for my trouble.

I told her no one informed me and I’m definitely not going to pay for it!

Let me quickly hint you something about myself, I’m an extreme introvert and I’d rather pay for a mess than embarrass myself. On a good day, I’d say well it’s just N1,500 and pay. Mind you, other customers were already staring at us…wondering why a fine, well-dressed lady cannot pay N1,500 extra… I’d just pay up to avoid creating a scene.


Other times, the choleric in me will come alive and I will argue and argue on how and why I should pay for the extra charge.

Saying No

But that evening, I said NO…I did not even know where the courage came from and I was even telling myself, ‘Babe, if them no gree you better pay…and move on…N1,500 will not kill you o…lols…but my mouth and eyes was saying a different story…so I insisted that I will not pay!


And she agreed, and told me to punch my pin on the POS! Ha, I did a moonwalk and victory dance in my subconscious!


Bottom line of this is that we shouldn’t be scared to say no! I realized most times, while saying NO our actions says otherwise. We should learn to refuse what we don’t want with every of our reaction.


Two things will happen, the other person will either accept or accept…that’s not a mistake…no one will make you accept what you don’t want. When you tell them you can’t take it, they have no choice than to subtly accept.  Do not allow anyone make you do what you are not comfortable doing.


What are your thoughts? Would you have done same in my position? Do you agree people should say NO when they really do not agree with issues? Or they should just accept and allow it go? Share your thoughts below.


Have a fantastic weekend guys…

Akingboye Deborah
My name is Debs, a Nigerian lifestyle blogger. This is my personal space where I share about my travel adventure, fashion and blogging tips. Feel free to send me a mail on for collaboration, sponsorship and ads.

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  • thepearlylife March 31, 2017 4:08 pm

    Lmaoo this is me! I’m so afraid of confrontation. Especially in the saloon they are so intimidating! But good on you for standing up for yourself it’s so exhilarating when people don’t push you over. It’s definitely a confidence booster to say no. Great post girl!

    Pearl ||

    • Debwritesblog March 31, 2017 5:13 pm

      Thanks Pearl?? You can say that again… Saying No is indeed a confidence booster

  • Jahzmene April 5, 2017 6:32 am

    I am very adept at saying no….i know i have no chill sometimes,lol?… But sometime I just ignore or compromise…. But mostly I say no when it’s suitable to.
    Always yielding can actually lead to frustration…
    Saying no at times is very healthy and necessary for one’s peace of mind and justice.

    • Debwritesblog April 5, 2017 7:31 am

      You are absolutely correct Jahzmene, I couldn’t have agreed better. And always yielding can also make you look weak too…

      Thanks for reading and leaving a comment dear.

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    • Debwritesblog April 6, 2017 12:18 pm

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