Where are my darling blog readers? My favorite people, the ones who are always ready to listen and read me at all time. Let’s talk about dating today. I almost went MIA ? You know I can’t do that to you, just kidding. I’ve been carried away with the frenzy of my birthday. Yes, I was a year older on Saturday and I felt like a baby…the calls and prayers were all amazing and I felt 16 again. Don’t be deceived, I’m really growing old fast and I’m scared!
In this part of my country Nigeria, the older you get, the more consistent the question of marriage is asked. That question really get me edgy and I want to go back to being 21. Like, is marriage by age??? I’m officially tired, to be honest. I’m definitely going to get married, someday. But until then, can I enjoy my single and dating life in peace please? Thank you ?
Sitting Pretty
Out and About
By the way, that’s me feeling so pretty on a Nineties Tee! Yeah, I’m a ninety baby girl! ’90s baby are the best yet! ’80s are too old, ’20s are too young but we are the most fabulous ?Just kidding!So, today I’m really going to talk about an issue that has been bugging me. I actually did share a similar post when I started blog.
You can read Wack Communication Begets a No-Relationship.
There’s an amazing announcement at the end, so you may have to enjoy this over an ice cream cup and popcorn…Guys, this is for you! It’s about time you people stop trying to get a girl with your dry lines and more like a military approach. You can’t get a girl by trying to guilt trip her into dating you…No! Don’t try that please.Lemme go into it proper before I get on a rant rampage ?
How To Start Dating A Girl Online
1. Get to know her. Stalk her if possible. Don’t just start with the cultural tell me about yourself. Jeeez! I hate that line personally. Who has time to be writing a CV each time she meets a new guy? Social media has made stalking very very easy. If you dunno her social media handle, google her name. It’s not only celebrities that are on social media please. If you don’t believe me, google search your name right now…That done, you must have been able to get her social media handles. Read through. Know how she respond to people’s comment. The kind of posts she shares. Her friends. In fact, stalk her friends too, they will help you to know her more through their posts too. You should be able to get all this fact in a day or two if you have time.
2. Comment on her post. Please don’t spam her o! From time to time, not every time, leave related comment on her posts. Don’t go to the DM yet please. Wait for her to acknowledge by liking or responding.This may take time. Some girls get similar attention from like 100 guys. While you are at it, work on your own page too. Take down dumb posts and comments. First impression they say matters. Truth is, while these ladies may ignore your posts, they are checking out your pages ?? We stalk too.If what she sees interests her, she would respond with so much joy sef, you’d be awed.
3. The DM. Your first message in that DM will go a long way to determine if you guys will ever connect or date. Avoid Hi, Sup, Wassup, Can I meet you, Hey girl, Hello pretty, Good morning, Hey and all those cultural way of introduction. They have become boring. Try another approach.
“Your writing skill is impressive. I freelance sometimes too. Can we do a collabo?”
“I admire your entrepreneur spirit. It is unique. Could you share what makes you thick?”
“I know a friend who also work at your office. You guys are so industrious.”
“Never knew you are a student of OAU. My sis graduated from there too or my sis is a student too.”
“I have a friend that could help you design a logo for your brand, you would love it”
“You share the same date with my mom.”
Okay, while this may not really move a lady or may sound too forward. You may do some interesting greetings before throwing these in. But shy away from those conventional one word introduction. And please do not lie. She will remember. No lady want to be caught dating a guy who lies.
4. Her Response. Before a lady will reply, she would go through your profile. Even if she has before, she’d do so again. If she doesn’t like you, she’d never reply or answer in the most sarcastic way ever. If she respond politely, congratulations. You are on your way to level 2.If she doesn’t. Please free her and try again later. She may have just started a relationship or not in the mood for such chats then.If you try again and she still doesn’t respond, let her go. She is not interested. Move to your next crush.If she respond, then let’s proceed…
5. Spice up the conversation. Make her comfortable with you. Talk to her. Let her share with you. Please listen first before sharing all your life problems with her. Ladies love to talk. Be ready to listen. And take note. The day she realizes you forgot a vital information she shares with you, may mark the end of your new budding friendship.Listen to her and try and ask her question. Just because I say listen doesn’t mean you should play dumb. Be free with her. Ask her how her day goes and joke about it too. Talk. Listen. Laugh
Dating in sum
- She’d ask for your number. Well, not every lady will do this. But some will want to chat more on WhatsApp or more flexible chatting Apps that will require phone numbers. So be happy when she ask. Pop a champagne that night!And if she doesn’t ask, ask politely. If she gives you…oh dear, we are close to the goldmine!
- Play the boyfriend. Now you have all you want. She’s your friend, gist partner and whatever bond partner you guys have created. Now play the boyfriend role. You don’t have to be one to act like one. Call her. Be the first person she speaks with everyday and last. Be her best friend.Mind you, relationship never enter here o.
- Date. Ask her out on a date. A date doesn’t mean you both are dating o, ehn ehn. Don’t attempt to misconstrue it please. A date just mean you want to go beyond the walls of phone and meet your e-friend over a plate of food and some drinks.Don’t try to pop up the dating question there except she brings it up and be very clever with your answer.Be nice, gentlemanly and be yourself. Let her have an idea of who you really are. If you like, go there and be forming.
- She’d ask the Golden Question. Ah, we ladies don’t joke with that question. You have played your cards well and everything is going well. But you both are yet to get to that, “I love you” levels as everyone is taking their time to be certain.The day a lady is certain she’s cool with you and you are yet to ask, she’d ask. While all may not, most will. “So what are we now? Are we dating?”Yeah, now you can have a big smile and answer the question!
Whew! This must be the longest post have ever typed in a long time but it was fun.
So over to you, ladies and gents, which part did I miss? What difficulty do you think may arise in between all these? Let’s discuss in the comment section.
P.S: I am not a relationship expert and the above may not happen in order of sequence.And if you have enjoyed this post up to here then, it’s cool to announce to you that your girl has published a book! Yes, I have You can call me an author now shoulder up
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This is very interesting and helpful. In addition to all these beautiful and practical steps above, it is very important for guys to build an interesting conversation, make her comfortable around you, don’t rush her to share with you, give it time. And most importantly, like Debby said, be a good listener.
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Yes! I agree with you on this Seyi…building an interesting convo with a lady goes a long way in determining the strength of the relationship.
Thanks for reading and leaving a comment
Lol funny and interesting post Debs. First of all, happy belated! You look so beautiful in your pics. And I also hate that line “tell me about yourself” like omg it is such a turn off. Should I type essay? There’s so many things about me so that question is dumb ??
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Thanks darling ❤️❤️ You can say that again ?? You get to know someone over time not in one day!
Thanks girl ??
Very interesting tips…. i just kept on smiling as i read each points stated….. maybe because i saw my abilities, lines, and maybe because it brought memories…
One thing i must add is that guys BE YOURSELF! This works like magic.
Be HUMOROUS!!!—- A man with a good sense of humour will win the heart of any lady even if they never admit, be it on phone, chats or during a date.
When you go on the said date, Do not fail to give good compliments. She probably decided to meet with you in person and maybe adjusted her hair, did a special make up or wore that special dress… Uncle, tell her how amazing her nails are, tell her she looks beautiful, tell her her make up is on fleek, tell her her hair is nice, tell her she smells so nice, tell her her skin looks so soft and tender like a new born, just tell her everything….. Ladies love appreciation.
And after all said and done, suggest and propose another date, (wherever you choose, home or away)…. If you have done all the above so so well… she wont say No…
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Humor and compliments definitely go side by side ? Interesting point of view raised. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Tee?
Debs!!! You look really great. We hardly see enough of you photos. These are very interesting points raised and sincerely I think any guy who follows through with these has already won the lady’s heart. Great job girl ????
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Aw, Aniekan❤️❤️ thank you ☺️☺️ Yeah, that’s the idea ?
Happy belated Birthday to you, hopefully you celebrated the day well. Interesting post indeed. I believe the general idea is just to be yourself, and that will shine through. Greetings and best wishes!
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Thanks Blogoratti???? Yeah, being yourself is key!
This is awesome.
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Thanks Pearl ??
hi,
Very Superb Article.
Thanks a lot for sharing this information..
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Thanks for reading David, glad to share ?
Great one there, In addition, guys should pleaseeeeee stop asking the questions ‘have you eaten’? When you manage to say yes, next thing is ‘so what did you eat’? It can be so annoying. For me, the only people that can ask me that question without me getting pissed off are my closest male friends. Of recent, a guy even went as far as asking me what church I attend, after managing to answer him the next question was what parish. I just told him off immediately, there are tons of pick up lines out there.
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What parish, really? Hahahahahahahaha…they should please stopeeeeet! lol, we actually all have our limit.
Please tell them