Is Love Overrated?

Love isn’t always perfect. It isn’t a fairytale or a storybook. And it doesn’t always come easy.

I’ve read quite a lot of people abuse the word LOVE. Personally, I feel everyone has the right to talk about an experience based on what it gave them- if it’s good, they say it’s the best feeling; if it’s bad they tell you it’s worse.

Love is beautiful. Love is awesome. Love is fantastic. Love is everything you can think good about that 4 letter words.

Love is much deeper and more tolerant and lasting. People who love their families don’t just quit on them despite harsh words spoken and many times, of hurt feelings. Despite bad times the good outweighs the bad and people continue to gather as families and continue familial relationships. It must have something to do with the blood ties. In short, when you love someone even when they hurt you—it is difficult to stop caring or wanting the best for a person just as bad news about family members disturbs, saddens or hurts us.

I’m not talking about the agape love here but the romantic love. The kind of love that exist between a lady and a guy. 

A large number of people have had their share of a love gone sour and this has ruin their heart to love and trust again. They believe love is overrated and therefore shouldn’t be encouraged or spiced like some goodness that it’s not. They claim love is a convenience that wears out.

Yes, it may wear out because we crave different taste to the same food at different times but we can always spice it up and oil it so it doesn’t become bland but fresh and anew everyday.

As humans, we are entitled to our opinion about issues. While some whose heart has never known brokenness and has indeed found their own fairy tale love will argue that love is the best feeling after salvation, others who has only known pain in love, will tell you love is a mistake.

The feelings that go into loving someone do not turn to acid hoping for that person’s ruin. No there is a feeling of remorse and you still care and want the best for the person—even if its not with you. This is because during the relationship the person (spouse) really becomes a part of you especially when you shared and worked towards many of the same goals and strive for the same dreams together. Sure you get angry-sometimes vengeful when it ends…but this never lasts and its replaced by regret & sorrow almost like a death. But you realized you still want the best for the person because well, your feelings are kind of still intertwined, except of course you are completely broken and yet to move on.

Once a person enters the DNA of your soul, sharing an indescribable intimacy, it’s really hard to shut down all feelings. Sure we sometimes have to walk away but it hurts because deep down you still care. You just know it won’t work out. Some people just aren’t honest with themselves and of course, some folks really don’t have hearts that have known what it means to love. Love is the glue which holds this world together. Compassion afterall, is also a kind of love. When our hearts are moved to tears by someone in tragic or unfortunate circumstances that is compassion it moves us to reach out and help. Love is the reason most mothers refuse to abandon their children. Love is not overrated most people just don’t ever achieve it. They know only lust.

Whichever side we choose to accept, we should also know that falling in love involves two different people with different motives about it. If one party doesn’t really believe in love, the other party will suffer. Hence, someone get hurt.

If you both are however open minded, honest and happy about it, then it should be a safe haven and home for you both.

If you have ever been broken by love, why don’t you keep an open mind and see if you can still find a way to be happy which I believe you’d find if you choose to let go and move on.

If you have found love, keep it private, nurture it, and watch it blossom into a beautiful forever. And join me to say that love is not overrated…


Love is what makes two people sit in the middle of a bench when there is plenty of room at both ends

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  1. April 18, 2017 / 4:56 pm

    Although, I cannot categorically say that I have been in love before. But I do agree with all you have said. I don’t think love is overrated but I don’t believe it is something that happens overnight either. And before you ask me why I have never really been in love let the just tell you I haven’t really met that person.

    • Debwritesblog
      April 18, 2017 / 6:06 pm

      Awww dear, thanks for sharing your thoughts in this. The right person will come at the right time ??

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